With every holiday season most of us yearn for the warm embrace of family, the laughter of friends, and the joy of togetherness. The holidays bring moments of happiness and an opportunity to create cherished memories, but for many in the legal profession, though, it can also be a time of stress, loneliness, and emotional challenges. These occasions are when the significance of social connection as a resilience skill truly shines.
 

Embracing the Loneliness Epidemic

Let’s understand the context. According to the U.S. Surgeon General, loneliness is a widespread issue, and for many it is stronger during the holiday season. Despite (or because of) the emphasis on togetherness, a lot of people experience feelings of isolation during this time. Studies have shown that the perception of loneliness can have profound effects on physical and mental health. This subjective experience of loneliness can lead to increased stress, depression, and anxiety, and it’s even associated with a higher risk of chronic diseases and a weakened immune system. Fostering social connections thus becomes a vital resilience skill, especially during the holiday season. It’s more about good relationships, rather than more relationships. Here are a few tips to keep in mind to cultivate connectedness this time of year:
 

Focus on Relationships

Now is a great time to rekindle old relationships and strengthen current ones.

• Make a list of the people you care about. Create a list of friends and family members you genuinely want to reconnect with during the holidays—both those you see regularly and those you would like to catch up with if it has been a while.

(Hint: Now is the time to reach out if you feel a little pang of guilt for not staying in touch!!)

• Schedule some quality time, not just time. Quality time doesn’t have to involve big elaborate get-togethers (the holidays are busy enough already). But the time should be meaningful—as simple as a heartfelt phone call where you’ve set aside some time to be present or scheduling a coffee date where you truly connect. For many, a cup of tea or coffee and a heartfelt chat means more than an impersonal gift.
• Share your gratitude. Gratitude helps you feel more connected. Express your appreciation for the people in your life. Let them know why you treasure their presence and what they mean to you. A sincere word of thanks can go a long way in deepening bonds. If you can write a thoughtful card and either read it to them (if you’re feeling courageous!) or mail it to them, it’s even more powerful.

 

Find Ways to Be of Service

This season is full of occasions to be helpful. Volunteering and acts of kindness can offer a deep sense of fulfillment and provide a chance to connect with others who share your values. Being of service gives us the opportunity to refocus our attention outward toward others rather than inward toward feelings of loneliness, and it increases physical and emotional well-being. Here are a few ideas:

• Perform random acts of kindness. These make a difference—they really do, both for the giver and the receiver. Notice and thank the store clerk who needs a smile. Maybe hand out roses to strangers. Studies show that people who perform random acts of kindness often undervalue their effects. So be randomly kind and know that you are helping someone more than you think (including yourself!).
• Volunteer with causes that touch your heart. Local charities, shelters, and other organizations can always use extra hands during the holiday season. Whether it’s serving meals at a soup kitchen, participating in a toy drive, or helping with a community event, there is a way to contribute that fits for you.
• Invite your loved ones to join. I’m a big fan of what I like to call “2-fers” (you know, like 2 for 1 sales). Anytime you can combine two supportive things into one, you double the effect and even save time during a busy season! Encourage your friends and family to join you in volunteering. Doing so not only strengthens your connections but also spreads the spirit of giving, creating a collective sense of warmth and compassion.

 

Create New Traditions

Traditions hold a special place in our hearts during the holiday season, but they can also be a source of stress. To enhance social connection and resilience, consider embracing new traditions and practices that radiate inclusivity and love. Here’s how:

• Open your hearts, doors, and tables. Extend invitations to friends, neighbors, or co-workers who may not have family nearby or celebrate the same holidays you do. Hosting an inclusive gathering can create a sense of belonging for those who may otherwise feel left out. I remember a time years ago when I had had a challenging year and found myself alone and far away from family for Thanksgiving. A friend I had just met invited me to their family dinner. At first I didn’t want to intrude, but I went anyway. It was a slightly awkward, absolutely wonderful day. That gift of being included still resonates with me to this day. 
• Discover other traditions. Explore the richness of diverse customs: Learn about the traditions and celebrations of people from all different backgrounds. This curiosity about and openness to other cultures not only broadens your horizons but also allows you to connect with individuals from various walks of life, exchanging stories, food, and love.
• Develop collaborative traditions. Involve your loved ones in starting new traditions that everyone can enjoy. Think about having a themed potluck dinner, a game night, or a craft-making session. Collaborative traditions can strengthen bonds, creating memories that are truly from the heart.